Sunday, February 7, 2010

BONEHEAD SELLS OUT

Bonehead was born late one Friday night sometime in April, 2003 at an old dining room table in a townhouse apartment in Bellport, New York.

The offensive pseudonym of the immortal satirist J Giddy.

Full disclosure – we don’t live in Bellport any longer and my name isn’t really J.Giddy either. 

Who I actually am is completely irrelevant to this story anyway.  

Today I am simply confronting an inconvenient truth – that is that I have sold out and am going back to work.  Believe it or not there exists an organization willing to hire the immortal J.Giddy to a full time position.  

I know – sell out.  I’ve spoken about getting laid off and the opportunity I had to make a difference, and do my own thing.  It wasn’t bullshit, but I discovered I don’t really have enough drive at this point in my life to start over. I like the paycheck.  


I spent about seven months working at home, trying to find my real niche.  I found pieces of it scattered to and fro, but never really got it all together.

I need to be in radio or media – probably till I drop dead.  It’s just what I do.

I may have just landed the last available decent job in radio – in about 3 days I’ll begin running a couple of local New York stations that have some tremendous upside.  I think sometimes about what I’ve envisioned myself as doing as I approach my fiftieth birthday, this is one of those things.  

There’s a harsh reality to this.  

I’ve worked at home since July first of last year.  That’s seven fucking months of getting up as soon as the hangover has passed.  Seven months of complete autonomy.  Seven months of working at home, with my wife.

Without question, they’ve been about the seven happiest months of my life.  

How lucky am I to have had the opportunity to set up a plan for a home-based business with the person I most enjoy spending time with.

How lucky am I to have had seven months spent laughing with my best friend pretty much all day, every day.

How lucky am I to have a partner, a friend, a wife who encourages me to follow my dreams, and is so genuinely proud of me every day?

I even got to spend six weeks with Junior Miss Giddy during her winter break home from college.

There’s a moment, actually an hour, every day (well Monday-Friday really) that I like to think of as the “Golden Hour”.  Our home workday will generally find Chrissy with her laptop downstairs and me upstairs in the office.  Generally, I’d close my day out at about 5:30 or 6pm.  I’d disengage my laptop from the docking station and move down to the kitchen.

That’s where Chrissy was set up at the kitchen table, and was probably either skyping friends or preparing some recipe that she’d found somewhere online.  Junior Miss Giddy would be there when she was home too - managing the multiples of text messages to her phone and waiting to be entertained. And fed.

I’d plug into the wall, grab some wireless network access and catch up with my blog comments, or hers, and flame some of our brain dead friends on facebook.

Best part is that it always led to some crazy dinner discussion, and was just a fun hour to catch up.  

For these things, I’m the luckiest man on the face of the earth.

Going back to work I worry about missing these daily routines that I’ve grown so accustomed to in so short a period of time.

These seven months will always live fondly in my memory.  I had the great opportunity to make some friends here in the world of blogging, and I’ve had opportunity to relax my mind into my version of a creative machine that in years past I could have only dreamed of.  If only I could make a living at it, but alas - we dream.

I’m jumping in head first into this new gig.  I sincerely hope to be able to keep up with Bonehead at least a few times per week.  It’s become so much more a part of me than I ever imagined.

I expect I’ll have plenty to say about the stresses and adventures that new workdays bring – heck maybe I’ll even return to my cynical ranting ways.  Nah – that’s old Bonehead, before the sabbatical! 


13 comments:

Lauren said...

Congratulations!!! There must be something in the air that's not toxic. I start a new job Tuesday after being out of work close to a year. Another blogger I follow starts work tomorrow. Weird. Huh? Best of luck in your new endeavor. I'm going to face the same time constraints as you with blogging. It's like breathing. Something I've got to do. Hopefully, I won't turn blue.

Steph said...

Best of luck to you Herr Knochenkopf! I do hope you will be able to carve out some time for your blog, but more, I hope you can keep that magical happy hour with your family.

Whatever, your readers will still check up on you.

Awesomeness said...

I hope you like your new job! May your blog not turn into a never-ending stream of complaints about what assholes your coworkers are...like someone else's blog...*cough*

Don E. Chute said...

Go Getem Bonehead, J Giddy...

Your pleasure, has been our pleasure, to visit, time-to-time.

Have fun, with the new gig. One last post...a little, Elvis Costello...Welcome to the working week?

Peace, Dude.

Cacai M. said...

Congrats and good luck to your new venture.. Am happy for you..

umihoney said...

I wish you every success in everything you choose to do.I have enjoyed reading your blog and for that I thank you. I look forward to reading whenever you have the time write.Best of luck my friend and success always.

Will said...

Hi Bonehead.
I hope that your new job won't keep you completely away from your blog ,it was nice to see those long lost songs being posted with expert knowledge about them.
Makes those old bones feel young again.
Yes isn't great to be able to spend the day and toughts with your partner , it's worth any 9-5 job anytime.
Being your own boss is still the best thing on earth.
But you never know what life has still in store for you maybe one day you,ll be back on the blogging side of life.
Have a great week!
Will.

Ann said...

Congratulations and best of luck to you. I look forward to hearing about the new job.

Bonehead said...

Hi Lauren: Thanks! I know - it's quite a coincidence, all these people getting back to work - hope it's a good sign! Best of luck to you getting started tomorrow!

Hi Steph: Thank you! We're already trying to arrange our schedules - so hoping to keep that going! Glad you'll be continuing to visit!

Awesome: We'll try to keep the work venting to a minimum...'cept if it's funny of course!

Don E: Thank you so much - I really appreciate that! Will definitely get an Elvis tune in here soon!

Hi Cacai: Thank you very much - and thank you for stopping by!

Hi Umi: Thank you for the kind words and thank you for being a part of Bonehead - I'm so happy you enjoy my ramblings!!

Hi Will: Thank you! Couldn't agree more - being your own boss is the best - and perhaps it's something to fall back on if the new gig doesn't pan out. I'll still be posting as often as I can - hopefully I can find more of those songs for you!

Hi Ann: Thank you! Hopefully they'll all be happy posts and not angry rants!

David DeWall said...

Hi Bonehead! Congratulations, man! Radio! I did it part time over 30 years when I was still a young guy, loved it, but then Ma Bell came along and offered me a whopping 4 bucks an hour. I worked 18 hours a day until I gave up the radio gig.

So now 30 years later I sit on the edge of a jungle in the Philippines at age 57 with all the time of the world thanks to AT&T's generous retirement plan "writing" a blog. Good luck, Bonehead!

Chrissycat said...

To my dear sweet husband...the best Valentine's Day card I've ever got was this post. Thank you.
I love Bone!!!

Bonehead said...

Hi David: Thank you! I'd be lying if I said I wasn't jealous of that! We're working hard to make certain a retirement while we're still young enough to escape to an Island for a writing lifestyle is still possible.

CC: Thanks Sweety - Love you too! Does this then get me off the hook for flowers and card this weekend! Whoo-hoo! Who said blogging didn't pay!

ManOverBoard.com said...

I don't know how I missed this blog post, but it can happen when you visit so many. But this is a major one in my life and I am very happy and sad.

The day I lost my job back in Nov one of the first things I thought of was, hey I am going to do what J Giddy is doing and working my way to be self employed once again and not have to work for the man. So that was kinda of a bitter sweet moment.

I am very truly happy for you Joe, it isn't easy getting a job the older you get, they all want the 30 year old and pay him cheap. So you have to be happy that you have that paycheck coming in again.

As far as me, I am still going to try and make this work. I just can't see myself go back into corporate America again, but like you, can't save never.

I am also happy that you got a gig back in radio, which is obviously a place where your creative abilities can be utilized. And as far as Chrissy and your 7 months of togetherness. If anything, it will make coming home after each day at work that much better. To know your best friend and soul mate is there.

I know I will miss your daily entries, ha just like I missed this one, duh. But I know you will do your best to check in from time to time.


J Giddy lives in the heart of all of us who come here. So you better not hang up your bones, at least not yet.